Thinking About Food All The Time? Your Strategy is Misplaced.

You wake up and immediately consider what’s in the fridge. Your mind wanders through the pantries and you thoroughly assess every option you can have…or rather, what you’re allowed. What would be “good”? What would be “right”? What would “fit” the “plan”?

It doesn’t take you long to come up with the perfect concoction of foods that perfectly fit your structured dietary regime (of the moment…it’s been known to change rapidly) and settles the incessant worry…until soon after. Although you are downright relieved to have come up with the perfect low-carb, high-protein, diligently portioned meal in your head - you are totally blindsided at what happens next.

You’re partaking in your usual straight-outta-bed Instagram scrolling and you witness something brutally enticing that your friend just shared on her stories…HOW. DARE. SHE.

What is it?

None other than a bagel from that new New York style deli on the East side of the city. 

It’s a bagel with bog standard cream cheese slathered in the middle - and yet…you can’t take your eyes (or your mind) off of it. 

Should you grab a bagel later today?

But…you had already planned to have rice later today as the side to your homemade curry in the freezer…you can’t have carbs…TWICE in one day! That would be a no-no. 

Okay, new plan: you can scrap dinner altogether and go for the bagel and then maybe eat zero-carb all of tomorrow too…could that work?

Hmmm maybe it’s best just to let the urge pass.

Although…that bagel. Wow. THAT. BAGEL.

^^^Any of the above story feel familiar?

Some version of this report is a story I hear all too often with the women I begin working with. They are doing all of the right things but with mixed outcomes.

Some of them are still carrying excess weight - even though they are SO responsible and diligent about choosing the healthiest options…almost always! Their friends are even impressed and may refer to them as “health-nuts”. Unfortunately, they feel at war with their bodies and guilty with their thoughts.

On the other side, there are the women who may be “skinny” from an outside perspective - but on the inside, they are struggling to control their non-stop obsession with food. It’s all they think about, and they have little time to “enjoy” this ideal body their friends compliment them on.

Look, I get it. I was actually on BOTH sides. I was the secretly panicked skinny girl who pretended “Wellness is just my passion, and I love healthy food, so it’s all good - don’t worry about me!”.

Then I became the slightly-overweight chick who was just as focused on food…but since I was no longer underweight - all my friends and family assumed I was “healed”, and I had the double struggle of my thoughts AND my shitty body. I would think to myself… “Seriously?! I diet just as hard as I always used to…and now I look puffy and bloated all of the time…this is SO not fair.”

Here’s the deal: RULES of eating always lead to OVEREATING.

When we are following diet restrictions and panicking about possibly having the ‘wrong’ thing…we’ll inevitably OVER-eat the ‘right’ thing…maybe not every meal, every day - but the body always wins.

If we are in a state of deprivation - even if it’s just a MENTAL deprivation…it is almost impossible to get “full” or FEEL SATIATED. All we feel is lack. A lack of what we truly want…which we haven’t REALLY explored with total honesty or abundance…so we’re not even sure what we even WANT anymore anyways…just fleeting moments of seeing the lemon tart on our aunt’s kitchen table and desperately trying to ignore it.

Whether this storyline is messing up your waistline or your mental & emotional state…or both - the way out is less obvious and way more counter-intuitive than you think…

It involves dropping the strategy. Surrendering to TOTAL and COMPLETE CHOICE of ALL FOODS. Trust me babe, I believe you enjoy naturally healthy food. I’m sure you do. And I’m also sure you will continue to do so.

But I also know that depriving yourself of a carb in more than one meal a day (or, ‘insert your current diet rule here’) - is actually INTERFERING with not only your weight loss but also your life.

If you’re interested in doing both…returning to a healthy slim weight AND getting your life back…let’s talk.

You can book a complimentary, zero-obligation consultation with me here.